Mentoring, Coaching and the Importance of Intrinsic Motivation
At A.B. Paterson College, we offer a range of opportunities for our students to not only have access to a mentor, but to become mentors themselves. In Year 12, each of our students are assigned a staff member who is a mentor to help support and guide them through their final year of schooling. In each of our homerooms in the Senior School there are students from Year 7 to Year 12 who support each other and help guide those younger than them through the challenges of high school. In our Junior years, our Year 12 students spend each Monday lunch and Tuesday homeroom working with students across a variety of year groups to engage in play, reading and reiterate the importance of building relationships.
Having access to a mentor is a gift, this person can act as a guide to support and help you navigate your way through a range of events that occur in life; friendship breakdowns, subject selection in Year 9 and university applications to name but a few. It is important that this relationship is built on mutual respect as the mentor is there not only guide to you, but to affirm and empower you.
Meetings with mentors predominantly commence by discussing your goals, the journey you are currently on and what you hope to achieve. The goal of any mentor is for their mentee to take the journey out of the mentor’s hands, and to truly make it your own. To do this, and to achieve the goals set out in that initial conversation, takes a significant level of commitment and motivation.
There are two types of motivation: extrinsic and intrinsic. Extrinsic motivators tend to involve compensation, reward or punishment whereas intrinsic motivators come from within. Becoming intrinsically motivated offers autonomy, mastery and purpose. Initially, extrinsic motivators can provide short bursts of motivation to help us commence working towards a goal, however, it is important not to rely on these as we can become used to the praise or live in fear of what the punishment can be. Rather, aim to develop intrinsic motivation and this is where a mentor can help you to find the drivers to motivate you to achieve your goals and identify your purpose. A mentor can help you to envision that moment where you have achieved success and can say, ‘I did that!’. This journey, however, will not be without its challenges and when things get tough it wont be the praise or the punishment that gets you through, but drawing on your intrinsic motivators; do I need to increase my autonomy to complete this task? Should I refer to my previous mastery to affirm that I can achieve this? Do I need to remind myself of my purpose and what I aim to achieve?
Everyone is unique and will have different needs from different people in their lives. When meeting with a mentor or coach, consider:
- What are your goals?
- What does success look like to you?
- What approach do you need from a mentor?
- What obstacles might you encounter?
Discuss these questions as they can guide you to where you want to go and will help you to recognise the connection between today’s choices and tomorrow’s consequences. We have many opportunities available at the College to not only become a mentor or coach, but also to receive mentoring. By considering different types of motivators, and what a mentor can truly offer their mentee, these relationships can help those within our College community go from strength to strength; to achieve their goals and affirm their purpose.
Charlotte Brook
Head of Senior School